Vulnerability and Empathy

Brene Brown: Checkout her Ted Talks on "Vulnerability", also her Netflix Episode, and her 5 Books on New York Times Best Seller's List .... plus these cartoon shorts...

Vulnerability vs. Invulnerablity. Why do we armour up?

Vulnerability as the Gateway to Emapthy:

Scarcity Culture creates "Never Enough" mindset. As a result of us feeling never enough, we protect ourselves from judgement, criticism, ridicule, blame and fear by armouring up. However this invulnerabilty locks us out of Love, Belonging, Joy, Intimacy, Trust, Innovation and Creativity and especially Empathy.

Invulnerability blocks Empathy

Empathy

Fuels Connection

1. Perspective Taking : the ability to recognize another's perspective as THEIR truth

2. Staying out of Judegment

3. Recognizing Emotion in Another

4. Being able to communicate that (Feeling with another)

Empathy is "feeling with" others

Blame is discharging of discomfort and Pain

Blaming blocks Empathy

Accountability is a vulnerable process. When we are listening to place blame we are not listening with Empathy.

Accountability is Vulnerability

Couples and Relationships

Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Dr. Sue Johnson

Gain understanding of how attachment theory plays itself out in intimate realtionships, and change your dance by better understanding your self, your partner, and creating intimate conversations which rebuild your relationship. Also available in Audio Book.

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A practical guide and how-to mannual for making Marriage work

John M. Gottman, PH.D.

While healing requires conversations (Sue Johnson's approach). John's work offers research and education around the principles of intimacy. He is possibly the best selling author of relationship books in the world.

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Healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful

Janis Abrahms Spring, PH.D.

After the Affair is reported to be the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. Healing is important because it is beleived that 70% of releationships are affect by this.

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The 5 Love Languages and more by Dr. Gary Chapman

Gary Chapman, Ph.D.—author, speaker, and counselor—has a passion for people, and for helping them form lasting relationships.

Dr. Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages

5 Love Language Test

Dr. Gary Chapman Relationship Podcasts

Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman is a weekly 54-minute radio program offering life-changing insight and realistic advice for strengthening relationships.

Relationship Podcasts

Dr. Gary Chapman

Books, Curriculum, Study Guides, and Blogs...

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Personality Resources

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Quick Personality Assessment

Ensure you can create and account or "login" to save the test before you begin and then .... Take a test to discover who you are, based on a proven personality system (the MBTI framework of 16 personality types). It’s free and simple to answer.

Take the Test

16 Personality Descriptions

If you know your MBTI type, follow this link to get a better description of your personality. Learn the MBTI framework, 16 personalities type descriptions.

16 Personality Descriptions

Personalities in Relationship

Find out how you interact with another type. This section helps you understand the joys and struggles you and your partner will have based on your personality type.

Personalities In Love

Do What You Are

Students or future Students of any age, and career changes will love the insights of this book.

Using MBTI Theory to achieve success and satisfaction at work

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